The first thing in having a better orgasm should be to give yourself permission to do what is needed to have one. Forget all the sexual baggage at your door. First of all it is related to feelings of guilt and shame about your body, sex and pleasure. This goes a long way on the path to orgasm discovery.
Know your own body
There is no doubt that one of the key things you can do to have a better orgasm and more satisfying sexual life is to know your own body and exactly what gives you pleasure.
Experiment to discover what kind of touch feels good and where. What type of stimulation at what level is needed to build your arousal to the point of orgasm. It is crucial to having one.
When someone doesn’t know what pleases them sexually, they can not communicate that information to a sexual partner, isn’t it? So spend some time alone with your body and find out all it’s mysteries of pleasure.
Train your pelvic muscles
It is very important to mention that orgasms use muscles. We usually do not think about that in the heat of the moment. But the truth is, our bodies use muscles we may not even know we had, during sexual arousal and orgasm. One of the most important groups of muscles are the pelvic floor muscles.
Pelvic muscles contract for the duration of orgasm and when these muscles aren’t in good condition it can have an effect on how we experience intensity of orgasm. By doing Kegel exercises your pelvic muscles will strengthen and intensity of orgasmic pleasure will be better.
Next time you have a penis in your vagina try to contract your vaginal muscles like you are holding your pee in. Actually, the best way to do Kegel exercises is during sex. You will feel tighter down there. This will give you intense amount of pleasure and enable you to climax easier.
Side effects of drugs
Check out your medicine cabinet. Pills are well known for having sexual negative effects which include difficulty in achieving orgasm. If you are taking any medications a discussion with health care providers is advisable. Usually there is an alternative medication that doesn’t have the same unwanted effects.
Importance of controlled breathing
Breathe during sex deeply and go slow. Deep and controlled breathing helps keep oxygen streaming through the blood. This helps orgasm and in addition helps you be aware of everything going on with your body. It will help you tune into sex instead of tuning out.
If you breath correctly it will help you slow things down as well. Let your arousal build up by taking your time during foreplay. It will make orgasm better because when you finally let go it will feel like a much needed explosion.
Try to synchronize your breathing with your partner as long as you can and just relax. This can increase the excitement during foreplay and in the beginning of intercourse.
Don’t close your eyes. Make eye contact with your partner. This increases the sense of intimacy and boosts the excitement of both partners progressively.
Problems with vaginal dryness
Take a mirror and make an inventory of your vagina. I do not suggest to count all the parts, of course. But pay attention to what goes on during sexual arousal and if there are problems in that area. When a woman experiences vaginal dryness or the elasticity of her vagina has decreased sex is often uncomfortable and even painful. This does not produce an optimal orgasm situation.
In spite of this, vaginal dryness and lack of elasticity are two things that are more easily treated than other problems related to sexuality and orgasm.
Make use of natural vaginal lubricant
Don’t be shy to make use of additional help in form of natural vaginal lubricant. It can really do wonders especially when it comes to vaginal dryness and problems with low sexual desire. And in addition it can help restore vaginal elasticity. Perhaps the best thing about it is the fact that this type of vaginal gel not only provides lubrication but can help a woman generate more lubrication herself.
As a result there is absolutely no unpleasant feeling while having sex like there is when a woman has vaginal dryness. Applying natural vaginal gel in order to resolve vaginal dryness and problems with low libido is a definite answer to the problem that can help women have better orgasms.
Sex positions to make him last longer
As we know, women need to be stimulated longer time to reach orgasm. Talk to your partner and try sex positions that will make him last longer to make sure you get yours. These positions will not sacrificing any pleasure on his end, and chances are you will reach that big “O” easier. Check out this video to learn the positions that will make him last longer.